Emotional Well-being and Emotional Needs
There is a gift in every emotion. Have you ever asked yourself what that emotion is calling you to do in any given moment? Identifying your emotions comes down to owning your power and becoming complete and whole within yourself.
Developing awareness of your emotional state and recognising your emotional responses will transform your whole life. It will allow you to become more free and authentic. You will also learn that being vulnerable is not a weakness, but the doorway to a new you.
Meeting your emotional needs is important. It starts with getting in touch with the deepest parts of yourself and rediscovering who you truly are. You do this by exploring your thoughts, beliefs, values and desires.
Many people live their lives without ever fulfilling their true emotional needs. They starve for connection, and think they need some external source to fill this inner void. Unfortunately, our consumer-driven society is built on this mirage of unquenchable inner hunger. Our current systems of Western profit oriented organisations realised this aspect of human nature and behaviour. They understood that most people make decisions based on how they feel, and thereby profit from this void. The whole economical system is trying to persuade us that we need to buy things in order to feel happy.
Our emotional guidance system has been suppressed, manipulated, and geared towards external fulfillment for centuries. The general assumption is that by buying something, you will feel happy. When it doesn't work, the “answer” is simply to keep buying things until you become happy. This however, does not fulfill your true emotional need for connection.
The idea of happiness through consumerism is a misconception and it has led us to false conclusions of what true happiness is. Our choices became conditioned through years of repeated action of responding to our emotional needs by purchasing yet another item.
Most of our emotional responses were developed in childhood through observing our parents and direct environment. We learnt when it is OK to express our feelings and how we should behave in order to be loved and accepted. These emotional responses were then reinforced by the schooling system and society at large. The consequence is that the majority of our beliefs, thoughts, emotions and behaviours are not even ours.
If you want to know what your true values and beliefs are, you need to question every thought and emotion you have, and determine whether they are yours or they were just picked up and unconsciously adapted in your childhood.
Developing emotional awareness by understanding and truly recognising your feelings and their meanings will lead to a happier and healthier life. We all long to find peace within ourselves and the easiest way to do this is through cultivating self-love and self-acceptance. And when I say, “the easiest” I don't really mean easy. It will likely be the hardest thing you ever do, but if you master this one thing only, your life will change forever. Everything is born from and returns to this one single act: self-love or pure appreciation.