Emotions as Our Inner Guidance System
From a very early age, we have been taught that it's not always okay to express our feelings. No one ever really explained why, but we picked up on the fact that if we wanted to be accepted and approved of by our parents, friends and society at large, we had to suppress some of our feelings and emotions — and we’ve never even been told what emotions are and what they are for!
You’ve probably never even had a conversation on the subject, or discussed it with others. And why would you? It doesn't seem important. If it was, we would be teaching it at home or in our schools. But we aren't. We have been living our lives without truly understanding our emotions, what their purpose is and most importantly, how they can improve our lives.
Emotions were designed to give us moment-to-moment feedback on whether we are moving toward our desires and following our dreams, or going against them. Feelings and emotions are our inner guidance system that constantly gives us directions. This is our best motivational tool. Emotions will clearly show us whether our needs are met, and by doing so they give us the opportunity to make the necessary steps to bring our lives back in alignment. We often ignore these signs, however, and feel surprised when our lives don’t go as planned. Only we could have understood these signals (emotions) that our body was sending us all along.
The heart is 60 times greater electrically and up to 5,000 times stronger magnetically than the brain.
When we analyse our emotions and look at how we react to certain situations, we see that most of our emotional responses are automatic, and we do not consciously participate in their expression. When something happens in our lives, we most tend to react with our “usual” emotional response. This “usual” emotion is stored in the body, and it plays out as a subconscious programme.
When we experience something negative, we create a story around it. We judge it and tell ourselves why it happened. Furthermore, we create an emotional association with the event. If you encounter a similar situation in the future and your conscious mind is occupied with something else — if you worry about something and aren't completely conscious of your surroundings, actions, reactions and behaviours — then the body will automatically take over and look for similar past experiences as a resource. As emotions are stored in the body (more specifically in the nervous system, subconscious mind, cells and tissues), the mind will search for a past experience with a similar resonance or vibration and revert to that emotional response. This is our subconscious pattern. The more we act from this place, the stronger the subconscious pattern becomes, and it will act as an emotional anchor in our body.
We condition ourselves via repetition. The more we do something, the more it becomes automatic. And once our reactions become automatic, our environmental feedback will become more predictable too. Consequently, we will get similar results; and as such, we create a fixed reality.
“Your personality creates your personal reality. Your personality is made up of how you think, how you act and how you feel.” - Dr. Joe Dispenza
Our goal is for our minds and bodies to achieve a harmonious relationship, where our thoughts are in alignment with our feelings and emotions, and where we are able to consciously create a new reality.
The first step to achieving this goal is to start focusing on thoughts that benefit and support us. This will generate a positive emotional response in the body. From this improved emotional state, we will think more uplifting thoughts, which will result in more positive emotional feedback. By repeating this process enough times, both the body and the mind will adopt this new physical, neurological and psychological experience; and from this place, we can start forming new habits, behaviours and beliefs.
You also create emotional bonds with people around you (including your family, friends, teachers and co-workers), and you participate in these relationships on an energetic level (mainly subconsciously) until learning occurs.
Once you manage to clear the emotional charge, there won't be any aspect of yourself that will be triggered by this relationship. Your connection with the person will either cease to exist or completely transform, and you will no longer react to him or her the same way you used to.
Some people choose to stay stuck because doing so is comfortable and familiar. Change is not always easy; it means you are stepping into the unknown. This tends to be uncomfortable, and it can bring up our fears and insecurities. We can, however, learn to become comfortable with being uncomfortable; we can learn to embrace change and the unknown, even if it feels scary at first.
You can't create a different future by holding on to the past, and you can't create anything new without releasing the old. Emotions are anchors to the past! As long as your only resource is the past, you will perpetuate the same old cycles upon which you have relied for your entire life. For change to take place, you have to feel, think and act differently, so that you can bring new experiences into your reality. By learning to attain a new and improved emotional state, you will be able to attract higher vibrational frequencies, and become a match to new and more fulfilling experiences.
Our feelings and emotions speak to us; we just never really listened to them. It's not too late to start now — there is still so much they can teach us!