From Limitations to Surrender and Self-acceptance
Do you feel that the harder you try the less you succeed? Is something holding you back and you can't seem to push past your limits? What are these limitations? When you look at them closely, you will realise that they are your friends in disguise. Your limitations are not your enemies. They are suppressed aspects of yourself that manifested externally as problems so that you can acknowledge, accept, and heal them.
There are usually two ways people try to overcome challenges and difficulties: the most common is through willpower and determination, while the least practised approach is through surrender and acceptance.
When we use our willpower and determination to create change, the underlying tone and energy behind our motivation is that of resistance and non-acceptance. Our intention is to move away from the problem and to try to get rid of it. When you examine your emotions relative to your intention, you will realise that the only reason you would want to get rid of something in your life is because you don't approve of it. For this reason, it is very common to manifest struggle or difficulty when we hold a resistant vibration internally.
When you resist any part of yourself, you are pushing against what you don't want rather than accepting what is. When you are in resistance, you are out of alignment and working against your natural flow. This means that you are not allowing a true solution to occur, but creating more problems in your life. Resistance always perpetuates the very thing you are pushing against, and it feeds energy into it without bringing a solution or relief.
By trying to overcome or get rid of a problem we ignore the important message it holds for us. Everything serves a purpose, and without understanding the core message, we cannot fully move on. When we trace back the origin of a problem, we can always find a trauma, hurt or disappointment that caused the problem in the first place. When this happened, your body (and mind) adapted an out-of-alignment behaviour as a coping mechanism. The past trauma still exists within you and it plays out in your present life, manifesting itself as your problem.
The biggest barrier I see preventing people from living an authentic life is that they are unable to accept themselves as they are, so they suppress their unwanted thoughts and emotions.
Suppression never solves the problem. Burying your true feelings will only bring temporary relief, but will do more harm in the long term.
The best way to approach your limitations (self-sabotaging behaviours and beliefs) is through the art of surrender. This means looking at your problems with compassion and true acceptance without judgement.
When you live from a place of non-judgement and are able to feel compassion towards your flows and limitations, you are ready to release them from your life and free yourself completely. Through this inner liberation you can finally make peace with who you are and accept yourself fully.