Reframing - The Power of Language
“Words create our world. If you want to change your world, change your words.”
Your language is an expression of the way you think. Each word has an energetic vibration which can either limit or empower you. Your words are reflections of your thoughts and they reveal a lot about your inner world.
By further examining our approach to thinking we can see how a simple 'reframing method' can achieve a better result. Shifting our perception and looking at a situation or a problem from a different perspective will change the meaning of our experience.
You will discover how some aspects of your language can influence the outcome you get, or more often do not get. By learning the deeper meaning of our communication, we will clearly see how we might have hindered ourselves in the past by simply using language that did not reflect our intention or our true inner desire.
The Hidden Message Behind your Words
Observe carefully your words with which you are choosing to create your reality; listen to the words you use. Are you aware of the message you are putting out? Do you think your thoughts are invisible to others or are you taking responsibility for what emanates from your inner world?
Your body responds to your words. Language translates into biochemical and emotional reactions, which means your words directly affect your physical body.
The same is true for unspoken words. Recall some of the things you say to yourself. What are the most common words you use silently? Become aware of your internal dialogue and notice the message you are sending to your subconscious mind! What is the story you are telling yourself and how does it make you feel? Do you often judge or criticise yourself? Which words do you use when you do this? Would you use the same words when speaking to a friend? Challenge your internal dialogue so you can start shifting your feelings and therefore your experiences.
Words are powerful, spoken or unspoken as they carry an energetic vibration and they cause us to feel emotions. To demonstrate this, say aloud, 'I hate you.' Notice how you feel. Now say out loud, 'I love you' and again, feel into your body and notice your emotions. Repeat the same now quietly, only in your mind, and compare your two experiences.
You can easily learn to communicate more kindly and lovingly to yourself and others. The first step is to set an intention that, from now on you will be conscious of the words you speak. Recognise when you use positive (constructive) and negative (destructive) words. Make an effort to stop every time you notice a negative word and replace it with a more positive, supporting version. You may find this challenging at first, but the more you do it, the easier it gets. By becoming aware of your words, you will not only change how you feel, you will also send out a different message every time you communicate.
Necessity vs Choice (have to vs want to)
Every time you tell yourself that you 'need' to do something, you are creating an environment of necessity and dependency; you are limiting your choices. Realise that you always have a choice. Don't look at tasks with an attitude of 'I need to' but rather with an attitude of 'I want to.'
Compare the energy behind these sentences:
Necessity (words like: need to, have to, must, should, ought to)
I have to do this otherwise …
I need to complete these by …
I should really finish this today…
Possibility (words like: want, can, able, will, choose)
I want to do this and I cannot wait for this to be done!
I am so excited to see the solution I will come up with!
I can do this now or I could do it later.
I choose to do this now.
Never underestimate the power of your attitude towards everything in life as this will pave the road to your success.
Cause and Effect
How responsible do you consider yourself to be? Do you often blame others or external circumstances for your situation, or do you take full responsibility for everything that happens to you?
Responsible = Response Able
Are you able to respond well to situations and circumstances without looking for excuses as to why you can or cannot do something?
To help you identify which side of the cause and effect equation you are, have a look at the two sides:
Effect «» Cause
Excuses «» Result
Reasons why not «» Personal Power
Victimhood «» Responsibility
Necessity «» Choice/Options
I can't do it because... «» I do my best to...
I can't afford to ….... because «» How can I make it happen?
I can't do anything about it «» How did I create this situation?
This happened because … «» I take full responsibility for....
I have no option but to … «» What are my options? What choices do I have?
You made me feel like … «» How did I make myself feel this way?
They made me …. «» How did I allow this to happen?
I can't go on holiday «» How can I go on holiday?
I can't afford it «» What can I do in order to have the money I need?
I have no time «» How can I make more time?
Negative Statements and the Subconscious Mind
Our subconscious mind does not process negatives. It makes sense of the world through emotions, symbols, generalisations and associations. The subconscious mind also needs clear directions, and it takes your instructions very literally.
Therefore, if you say, “I don’t want to feel stressed!” the subconscious will generate a picture (and feeling) of you being stressed. Instead, try replacing this language with the statement, “I want to feel relaxed!” Simply switching from negative to positive language will make all the difference in your every day communication.
Become aware of the messages you are sending to your subconscious mind and use words that describe what you want to experience rather than what you want to avoid. State what you want, not what you don't want. By doing this you will be able to communicate clearly and effectively to your subconscious mind, making it easy for it to bring your true desires into manifestation.
Words also act as affirmations if we repeat them frequently. Have you noticed that the more you say something the more it becomes part of your reality? This can be very powerful when you are affirming empowering words, but also very limiting if you keep repeating negative statements. Words have the power to solidify your thoughts when affirmed daily, so if you want to feel better, start using words that have the potential to create positive change in your life. Set your intention and direct your focus towards what you want. Reinforce it with your words to create a greater experience for yourself.
“Language exerts hidden power, like the moon on the tides.”